Much can be said about emotional attacks. Here I focus on only one aspect: the true façade of their existence.

Emotional attacks abound us: every week, every day for some. When someone attacks us emotionally (denigrates, disrespects, acts rude) we often feel dejected, hurt and rejected. A large contingent of the population belongs to the ‘conflict avoider’ group -and attacks for these people in particular are worrisome and problematic because these people internalize the hurt and rejection that an other casts off due to issues with self-love. For others the contrary is experienced and attacks are somewhat deflected as the attack is viewed as the reflection of other person’s lack of understanding that ‘I am right.’ For these people, they also struggle with self love though the effect is manifested differently than in the first group, as they externalize the attack and somewhat deflect it since their heart is prideful or perhaps hardened. For the remaining few, an attack has no influence on them -because an attack is merely the issue or lack of resolve that the other has within their self. People in this group see that the other person struggles with self-love (regardless of if they internalize or externalize conflict). The heart of this group is spiritually grounded -recognizing the illness so to speak of the person who acts out in an attempt to harm them.

Whether you are a light worker helping others, or an individual trying to understand your own self and relations that you have, it is important to start with an easy question. Which group(s) do I belong to? Reflect and determine - am I being critical of -myself or -others because of the attack? This first question will help you to increase your self awareness and ultimately alter your perception of being attacked.

These three groupings are not mutually exclusive and as humans we tend to flow between the first two groups. As we grow spiritually we find ourselves more and more in the third grouping and less in the others. For those of us that find ourselves in the first two groups, I have been asked to share with you a meaningful message:

We can not, in reality be emotionally attacked by anyone. If we feel ourselves being attacked we need question our own heart to gauge where it lies.

We feel attacked only due to our self-centred perceptions, whether we internalize or externalize the attack. For most of my life I have stood strong in the first group, as a conflict avoider who would internalize other’s unhappiness. At times I have begrudged having a certain talk or meeting with an other because I sensed conflict. I have taken attacks that others have made on me very offensively, and internalized these actions to be some how fault of my own. And in times when ego grasped me, I have experienced prideful reactions to other’s attacks -seeing that the fault resided with them and certainly not me. And while, attacks are attributed to someone else’s limited love that they have for themselves, if our heart is one of judgement -we will remain in this second category of being. It is our heart, not our perspective that divides us from each of these categories. As Jesus said: “If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing” (1 Corinthians 13:2).

The perception of coming under attack stems from a fear of conflict, ultimately fear of others’ judgements. At times my guide has given me the message that I will come under attack. In the past I felt that these messages were aides to help me to be prepared for battle so to speak. And to some extent they most certainly were. However, more recently I was given the message by my guide that I would be attacked five times, by five different people. As the weeks passed and the attacks continued, I counted them down -eager for them to end and to begin a cycle of peace. Each attack had a rather horrid outcome for me and caused me much stress and anxiety. When the last attack presented itself, I actually thought ‘was this an attack?’ I seriously could not determine if I had been attacked or not, as it looked like an attack -but it did not feel the same way it had in the past when I had experienced them before. After meditating on this interesting novelty, it came to me: none of the attacks have anything in fact to do with me. Reflecting back on the attacks, it was evident that the attacks manifested out of a person’s individual fears, their insecurities. I was merely the object of their insecurity, not the cause. Catalyst, but not the cause.

Humans have a wide ranging ability to perceive and act on other people’s words and behaviours. It is within the individual’s power to create perceptions that will be internalized, externalized or understood for what they are- remnants of other people’s feelings. Emotional conflict only exists when we internalize or externalize other people’s feelings. This is typically neither necessary nor useful, as the feelings belong to the other and they are not yours. Do not make them yours: it is not your walk, but theirs.

When we walk in light our life is transformed: the power of ego diminishes as our higher self expands. As this happens our frequency rises and our understanding of love increases: our love of others and self. And so the message given over 2000 years ago to the People still rings true: “let all that you do be done with love” (1 Corinthians 16:14).

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Cherylynn Bassani