The twin flame are the two lights, or energy sources that originate from the same soul. They are eternally united, yet separate entities. Their human form is not identical, yet their energy finger print is the same. This shared print is identical with no other … while all of creation has a similar yet distinct energy print - with the twin flame, they are the yin and yang at the microcosmic level.

At the spirit level, twins are always together -and by their very nature they are never apart because they comprise the same energetic fabric. When souls come to earth one or both twins may choose to travel here. At times while one twin will be born into this world, the other will watch over as a guide for the other. At other times both twins are on Earth during the same time period. Whatever the case, twins (and other souls that we are friends with) come to this realm with a preconceived plan: for individual and interrelated collective soul learning and growth.

A vast literature exists on twin flames, though the majority of writing on twins is written about twins that are presently together on Earth, or how one can get reconnected with their twin. This literature is useful and important as it discusses the process of the Earthly twin reunion, which can be an amazing spiritual encounter. For the majority however, they are not reunited with their twin. I have been asked to write this initial article for these people, to help them on their journey.

Here on Earth, if twins meet they are not likely to immediately know each other. After spending some time together however, twins experience a significant magnetic pull towards one another. And it very well is magnetic, as the soul of each twin literally gravitates to the other as they are linked, or corded to one another -because, in fact they are of identical energy.

Not all twins however, meet in this realm despite being here at the same time. There are endless reasons as to why this is the case, but suffice to say this is what the twins planned. Realize that most souls actively seek learning experiences and growth by being here -for themselves and in essence for the collective. So, for whatever the reason twins may or may not meet. You made this choice prior to coming to this realm, and you really need to trust your higher self in this decision. (see blog on Awakening) This is something important that the literature does not emphasize, and an issue that my guides have urged people to come to terms with. As humans, we have the illusion of control built into our society: if we try hard enough, x will happen. (see blog on Control)

While twins mightn’t be together on earth, at the spirit level they are always together and work in unison. In this realm we may feel burdened and hurt by our twin, but this is only because we have illusions of control and a misunderstanding of what love is. (see blog on What is Love?) Being hurt by one’s twin is an earthly problem that is associated with one or both twins being caught up in their lower self. For some, when we meet our twin initially we feel an extreme pull, but we might not even know what a twin flame is that point. We just know that there is something unique and important about the other person, however we are stuck within our lower self and don’t have the tools/ability to deal with this meeting. We see our lower self’s desires as being rational and right. Until we awaken out of the 3-D state of reality and begin the process of letting go of our ego and cleaving to our higher self, we are dominated by our lower self. When we enter this realm, into our mother’s womb or through a surrogate, we feel that we are separated from Source (and it’s love) and our twin. And in fact, we forget about our twin until we are awakened. Our higher self understands the birthing and life on earth process and consequentially, the goings on are of no shock to our higher self. Our lower self however dominates much of our life, until we awaken. This earthly self, our ego, doesn’t even comprehend that we have undergone a transformation, until we awaken. Until this time we live in a manufactured world and for the majority of us, we are socialized by parents, family and friends who have no recollection of Source, our origins, who we are, nor our purpose as to why we are here. Due to our reconfiguration of the world and consequentially our limited understanding and use of our third eye, we feel that we are separated from the love of the universe (alone), though it is in fact always here surrounding us.

When we begin to awaken, many feel a separation from their twin -though in reality twins can never be separated, at least in spirit. There are two dichotomous feelings that govern existence: love/light and fear/darkness (see blog on Love & Fear). In this realm, modern humanity has created social structures that are based on fear. We are so very removed from the natural order of things (our interconnection with the universe) and live in a fabricated world (culture) in which most people live a life surrounded by fear. Just as the new testament talks of Jesus and his separation from his father (Source) – we too have entered a world that is foreign to us. Sociologists are quick to point out that our world is artificial, as we humans created every aspect of it. And this is where the trouble lies, as the world that we have created is a façade. It is not natural -culture and all of the norms, values and rules that go with it are purely learned. They are socialized and passed down through the generations. Our culture and the status quo has vastly become male dominated (lessening the role of the divine feminine within humanity), and over time patriarchy has intensified and creation on this planet has become less and less natural. As a result of this disconnect we experience enormous isolation within our families, communities, our twins and even from ourselves. All this to say, that many of us have a false consciousness of separation and isolation, from creator and all of creation.

There is no denying the incredible connection and pull created by the twin flame. We recognize it, but spiritually most are not in the position to understand it. As a result, this confounds reunion with the twin. For some, they cleave to the twin as they don’t want to loose them -and this can be overwhelming and suffocating for the other. Alternately for others they run from their twin because they don’t understand their intense emotions and do not want to be hurt as they have been in the past. Even though our higher self knows that we are united with our twin, our lower self struggles in fear and thrashes about trying to gain control of the situation. (see blog on Control)

In some cases, the created world (culture) has developed many stories surrounding an aberrant view of the twin flame. And this adds to misconceptions about twin flames. Oral stories and more recently media socialize us about true love’s kiss and happily ever afters. This is not the twin flame connection, but rather a concocted idea of what some humans feel are utopian relationships. The human and spirit overlay of ‘love’ are not perfectly matching (see blog on What is Love?), and so we force our cultural ideals concerning love onto our twin (and others), which has delirious consequences.

As I had mentioned, the majority of writing on twins focuses on getting in touch and physically uniting with one’s twin flame. If you have the opportunity of finding your twin, it is a monumental, life changing event. Not only does it expedite your awakening but it is truly amazing in countless ways. While these writings are helpful for the few that are united/ uniting with their twin, for the majority -not so much so … as their twin flame mightn’t be in this realm, they might not have met their twin (for a variety of reasons), or their twin might not be able to have a relationship with them nor even recognize their other half because of their exceptionally low frequency. I have been asked to write this article for these twins. I have been asked to reiterate that finding your twin does not make you whole -you are already whole. You have everything you need with in you, you just need to actualize it. Not finding your twin does not make you any less or devalue your mission here. Your path is such because this is the way it was meant.

I have also been asked to speak to those who find themselves stuck wanting and waiting for their twin. You are not meant to be stuck wanting or waiting for your twin. I would strongly recommend not fixating on seeking out your twin or worse yet waiting for your twin. A clear message from Source is that a twin can not be found and a reunification can not be forged in this manner: If you are both in this realm you will find your twin physically if this is what you planned: this will only happen when the two of you are ready.

In addition, I must relay that for many meeting your twin does not necessarily lead to a happily ever after. We are humans living in a fabricated world of bias and inequality which can create malice and discord. We come to the table with baggage from past relationships, family and the like. And not only do we come with issues from our current life, but hurt and turmoil from past lives can follow us. The fact is, many twins meet and one or both are not able to be reunited because of past hurts. Baggage, whether it be from this or a past life is a significant blockage hindering twins from reuniting. Each has their own path and each has their own work to do in eradicating past wounds. While programs can be found online to help elevate your twin’s frequency, and reiki can be used to heal past hurts, it is your twin’s journey and ultimately their choice as to whether they will awaken or not. Sometimes past hurts are so ingrained in us that we falsely believe that they are apart of us, and we refuse to let go. This decision is based on the balance of power between the higher and lower self. Certainly the higher self wants awakening, but the lower self contains the higher self so securely because fear rules our human essence. In fear, we are constrained to lower frequencies and succumb to the whispers of our lower self. Only by letting go of our fears can we raise the voice of our higher self, thereby lessening the power of our lower self. (see blog on Light and Fear)

The relationship between twins can be especially difficult when one twin is ready and cognisant of their twin, yet the other has not awakened. In this situation it is easy to engage in the chaser-runner situation that is so often experienced and discussed extensively in the literature. The chaser -runner situation can last for years and even a lifetime if the twins allow this to continue. This situation has an ill-effect on the vibration of each individual. During this period the chaser and runner often switch position intermittently, drawing out the process. During this time the vibration of both twins is low, as they continue to allow fear to regulate their life -regardless of if they are the chaser or runner. The chaser is filled with fear because they are frightened that they will loose their twin if they don’t persist. The runner on the other hand is also filled with fear as they are frightened by the prospect of having a deep committed relationship with their twin.

If you find yourself in this situation the only real thing to do is “let go” as Source and spiritual guides have told me. I must iterate that letting go is not giving up, it is letting go of your lower self’s notions of control over self and your twin flame. Letting go of any prospect that you can control your destiny with your twin flame. Sense of control is a human fabrication that lowers one’s vibration. While we can act and our behaviours have consequences -we can not control the destiny of any given relationship… no matter how good our visions are. (see blog Letting People Walk their Journey) There are too many factors and countless outside variables involved in controlling one’s destiny. Letting go is not easy, and in fact, it has been the most difficult lesson that I have learned. It is a choice I make each day in fact. For me, my nature is to love and help others especially those whom I love. As a Virgo, a staunch part of my nature is to try to control and plan everything. Please know that when you let go and live in the flow of the energy that you are meant to, your vibration will increase and people will be drawn to you, including your twin. When you increase your frequency, soul mates, those from your soul family and a slew of others will be drawn to you. It is only by letting go that you will be able to grow spiritually, thereby becoming empowered to reach your fullest potential here and simultaneously be surrounded by love.

‘Letting go’ means that you choose to trust Source: the universe, its countless messages and signs. You trust your guides, and most especially yourself. As you grow your higher self will become louder and louder and the lower self will eventually become muted. In doing this you are eradicating fear and embracing love/light. This is what it means to let go. When we let go in this way, our life falls into place and we are in harmony, not only with our Twin Flame but with all creation.

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